Article Reprints for Counselors

What’s Wrong with “I-Messages”?
When you’re having a problem with the kids, here’s how you can respond without making them responsible for your feelings or behaviors. Copy available on this site. $2.00

Being a Supportive Listener
How to listen, accept and validate children’s feelings and help them solve their own problems without getting in the way! This article offers alternatives to non-supportive responses that can shut down communications. $2.00

Ask, Don’t Tell
A great alternative to advice giving that helps kids take responsibility for identifying goals and available options and ultimately resolving their own problems. Includes numerous examples to illustrate ways of guiding kids rather than getting in the middle of their conflicts or solving problems for them. $2.00

Dream Big!
Ways to respect and encourage childrens’ hopes, goals and dreams, and how to avoid adult behaviors that can get in the way. $2.00

Why Ask Why?
Asking kids to defend or explain feelings can interfere with emotional processing and problem solving. Here are arguments against asking why kids feel what they feel, and alternatives that protect emotional safety and development. $2.00

Unconditional Motivation
Motivating your kids without powering, nagging, threats, fear or guilt! $2.00

No-Lose Parenting
Minimize power struggles by creating a “win-win” home environment. $2.00

Positively Positive!
Positive comments, outcomes, focus and attitudes to build commitment. $2.00

Proactivity: Thinking Ahead!
Stop reacting and start avoiding conflict by anticipating and communicating! $2.00

Following Through
Making limits work! How to avoid warnings, excuses, giving in, giving up! $2.00

Saying “I Love You”
How to express your loving feelings for your children—without hooks or hangups, and without worrying about how they’re going to respond. $2.00

“Not NOW!”
What to do when you want some time to yourself— and your children want YOU! How to take care of yourself without abandoning or neglecting your kids. $2.00

Bedtime without a Battle
How several parents solved their bedtime problems. Looks at routines, boundaries, staying in bed, even monsters in the closet. $2.00

I’m Calling Your Mother!
How involved should you get in problems that arise between your kids and their teachers? This article, written from an educator’s point of view, helps you set boundaries and support the teacher and child in the process. $2.00

Is Obedience Enough?
Order taker or decision maker? This article tells what’s wrong with obedience and how to teach kids to make positive choices when you’re not there. $2.00

Thank a Teacher
Thoughts and ideas on teacher appreciation, and how acknowledging and validating someone’s contribution helps us, too! $2.00

Secrets of Successful Mentorship
An article by Dr. Bluestein that describes characteristics of effective mentors, to help if you’re looking for a mentor or aspire to be one yourself. With new sidebar and more material added. $2.00

Are Your Colleagues Driving you Crazy?
Establishing positive, productive relationships with other teachers and administrators is an essential ingredient of teacher success. This article tells you how! $2.00