Alternativas Que Apoyan a los Sentimentos

Tenga muy claro su papel. Are we there to protect children or to teach children to protect and defend themselves; to give solutions or to help them find their own?

Escuche. Maintain eye contact, with minimal or no talking.

Distinga entre los sentimientos y el comportamiento. Remember that there’s a difference between wanting to hurt someone and actually hurting someone.

Acepte el derecho que tiene la otra persona de tener esos sentimentos. This means the absence of judgmental, shocked or disappointed words, looks, body language; not making someone wrong for his or her feelings.

Valide la experience de la otra persona. Validation is anything you say or do that recognizes and respects the reality of the child's experience, and gives the child permission to have his or her feelings.

Mantenga sus límites. Let kids know when you’ll be available. Watch the tendency to take responsibility for the child’s feelings or problems by trying to fix the situation, cheer them up (fix them), or by rescuing or advising.

Provide healthy, non-hurtful outlets for feelings (and meeting needs)

Ask–don’t tell. This is for problem-solving more than dealing with feelings (affective states). Helps children find solutions to their own problems, think about options available, anticipate probable outcomes. Puts you in the role of facilitator or guide. A great alternative to advice-giving! For more information, click here.

Model and teach conflict-management. Demonstrate non-destructive ways to have, express, and process feelings; express needs; set and maintain boundaries.

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