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Rules of Unhealthy
Adult-Child Group Systems
by Jane Bluestein, Ph.D.
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Beliefs of Unhealthy
Adult-Child Group Systems
by Jane Bluestein, Ph.D.
This list of beliefs was also
taken from For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the
Roots of Violence by Alice Miller, page 60.
Comments on Miller’s
work by John Bradshaw, from Bradshaw On: The Family: “The ‘poisonous
pedagogy’ concept exalts obedience as its highest value. Following...are
orderliness, cleanliness, and the control of emotions and desires. Children
are considered ‘good’ when they think and behave the way they are taught
to think and behave... when they are meek, agreeable, considerate, and
unselfish.... Probably no modern [adults] embody all of the above. In
fact, some have accepted and imposed the opposite extreme of these beliefs
with results just as abusive.”
According to much of the literature, many families function according
to many of these rules, which ultimately hurt children. Children come
to school with a host of adaptive behaviors they have developed in order
to survive in painful familiesbehaviors often inconsistent with
learning and social goals.
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October 16, 2006 5:04 PM
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